( Wonders of the World... )

’Fair and square’ pricing? That’ll never work, JC Penney. We like being shafted

...amenquohi for being SUPER DUPER etc. awesome of awesomeness.

That is a real thing. I said so.

That is all.

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Don’t Let the Writing Life Kill You - GalleyCat

Posts that help put me in perspective and show my writing style:

• Get to Know Me/The Popfiend Experience (The PxP)


• On Discussing the Issue of Race/Racism


• It was 20 years ago today...


• Talking with Pop


• Talkin' 'bout Ma


• The Toilet Seat Story


• The Name Game.


• I Believe.


• Mourning has broken.


• These 2 things I know are true.


• How I met the missus.


• On Marriage (Communication, Compassion, Compromise)


• Lisa and I: We Fit.


• My personal take on LJ Amnesty

Some of the material is dated and focuses (a lot) on my relationship with my late wife, but given that that is the defining relationship of my life and a large factor in the person I am today...

Anyway, thanks for coming by and being a part of this journey.

Peace,
- O.

The week that Lisa passed aside from being the worst week of my life was also probably the busiest. I had to manage all of the arrangements and make sure that it was all taken care of. I had some help, but 90% of it was me.

It was important to me for a variety of reasons, not the least if which was that I'm her husband. I signed on for this when we said our vows just like she did if the situation was reversed. And I know she would have done as much (probably more) and worked even harder to make it all work as was her way.

One of the things I did at the time was, I wrote her obituary which was handed out at the funeral. I didn't think anything of it other than about doing it right, as again...it's my job. No matter what, I take care of her. Through to the end...and beyond.

Now I told you that to tell you this... (haven't used phrase that in a while, I figured I'd pull it out as a reminder that I'm still in here somewhere)

When I first started seeing my therapist she asked did I have a picture of Lisa. Lisa and I never carried wallet sized pics on us, we had pics on our work desks and at home, but we never carried pics around. Just wasn't our style and for Lisa, she was very private. I neglected to bring a picture to my 2nd session, but for my 3rd session I brought a few pictures and the obituary.

My therapist remarked that my words were "beautiful" and I mentioned the whole "It's my job thing."

But she also mentioned that I wrote the whole thing in the midst of profound grief and emotional trauma.

The other day I wrote about "spoon theory" applied to my current state.

And I've been realizing more and more since my therapy appointment that my "spoons" have disproportionately been spent on keeping myself "motivated" and keeping forward.

Because there are things to be done and life hasn't stopped. So I've been focused on the work of life, but not the work of actually living.

Anyway, I just wanted to note this and let you know that if I seem curt or perfunctory it's a function of this and not anything else.

I'll be working on this for a while, but I will be working on it.

That's my new job. Well at least a part of it.

Thanks for listening.

Peace,
- O.

There are currently no site-wide problems.

( LOL! )

...I was having dinner with a colleague and friend and I was discussing the 3 things that I've had problems with since Lisa died.

1.) Motivation
2.) Judgment
3.) Memory

And as I was describing what's happening in those areas, I realized that I was describing "spoon theory" except with emotional rather than physical energy.

I've been spending most of my emotional "spoons" on #1 on the list. That's how I keep moving.

So "judgment" and "memory" get the short shrift.

I compensate for the former by deferring some decisions until I can make them safely. And I compensate for the latter by writing notes.

But it's not perfect.

And it was literally this afternoon where I felt the application of this idea in *MY* life.

It was a weird realization.

And this also connects with something I talked about in therapy this afternoon. Didn't use this metaphor or language, but it basically works out to this...part of the reason that I appear to be doing well is where I am investing my energy, but if I shifted where I put my spoons then we might have a different result.

But I can't shift them right now because...

So this is where I am.

Anyway, feeling introspective and thought I'd share.

Something else in the list to think about.

Might want to write myself a note. ;)

Peace,
- O.

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Almost 15 minutes of your life you won't get back.  But there's some interesting stuff in there.

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( Utility Belt Issues... )

I see my doctor for follow up on the chest pains today and I also have a visit with my therapist. I am mostly off from work today although I'll be checking in with the office today because there are things that need to be moved forward.

But I'm going to take the opportunity to rest (kinda sorta).

I can see several of you (in my mind's eye) wagging your virtual fingers at me for the "kinda sorta".

Peace,
- O.

So the Avengers is a billion dollar movie.

So I made Shepherd's Pie last night and I was asked by one of my co-workers via The Book of Face to bring leftovers to the office. Since I made quite a bit and I expect that I would have had a little extra especially since I lost a day.

Hold on, let me back up.

The original plan was to make the ribs and Shepherd's Pie on Sunday for eating Sunday evening and throughout the week. The food math works out or is pretty close.

However, I spent Sunday afternoon through Monday morning in the hospital for observation. So everything got made Monday. That changes the number of required meals for the week and alters the food math considerably.

So I took what I figured would be extra and brought it into the office.

And I waited with bated breath to see what people thought.

Very concerned as Shepherd's Pie was Lisa's dish normally.

Apparently, it was tasty as some people cleaned their plate like a Hoover.

BTW, I went with Yukon Golds for the potatoes because I'm gourmet like that. ;)

Peace,
- O.

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